4 Keys to Happiness

Deep thoughts by Dimmer Switch:

I recently attended a training where one of the speakers discussed the 4 keys to happiness. Most of his research was done in a cancer ward in the hospital. His research was generally on happiness and treatment responses. I don't think he prioritized the list as #1 is the most important, I believe he tried to emphasize it takes a combination of all 4. I will list his 4 keys but add my own ideas to reasons why its important and/or leads to happiness:


1) Feeling a Sense of Control: In counseling and therapy I work a lot in this area (anger management, stress, relationships, etc.) Basically things happen to us for 3 basic reasons: Ourselves, Others, Fate. I don't really like the word Fate but can't think of a better one yet. OURSELVES, According to our choices we receive our consequences. This is the area with the most control. OTHERS, we have much less control (if any) with others, but their choices do effect us for good or bad. I would say rather than control we have influence, and I often counsel that the other thing we can do is protecting ourselves from others. As in many of the business books I have read a common theme is surround ourselves with successful people and they will influence us into success. The opposite is also true. FATE, we have no control here. No one asks for natural disasters, or accidents, but sometimes life throws us a curve ball. Here, though we have no control, we can choose to be survivors or victims of what comes our way.
From a gospel standpoint. One of the key foundations of the Plan of Happiness is agency! It is one of the greatest blessings given to us from our Father in Heaven.

2) Feeling a Sense of Connectedness: In my days working in the nursing homes in Orem and Rexburg I remember (generally speaking) that those with involved family got better much quicker and went home. Those without struggled.
It is comforting to know that no matter where you go in this world, we can be connected with others through the church. Genealogy connects us with our ancestry, and the priesthood connects us to heaven.

3) Have a Sense of Hope and Humor: One of my favorite quotes is "What makes the desert beautiful...is that somewhere it hides a well." From "The Little Prince", by Antonie de Saint-Exupery.
In counseling I always try and impress that happiness is not a destination or found in the future or past. I find myself saying "I will be happy when.." "I will be happy if..." Even if we finally reach these points there will always be a new spot on the horizon to long for.
True hope comes through the Atonement. I think the hope spoken of here is finding the positive in situations and events. Look for miracles and you will find them! Humor...In many situations we can laugh or cry...we may as well laugh.

4) Feeling a Sense of Meaning or Being part of something larger than yourself: In counseling I think this is why groups like AA or NA are so effective. Helping and service to others provides in their own treatment. Others look for this in charities and organizations.
One more reason why the church is so great, knowing we are part of the plan of salvation, plan of happiness is fantastic and gives us meaning fills us with hope, connectedness, and control.
Another great quote is from Cicero a Greek philosopher in his story "The dream of Scipio, "Look upwards then! Contemplate this place which is a habitation for all eternity! Then you will not need any longer to be at the mercy of what the multitude says about you! Then you will not have to put your trust in whatever human rewards your achievements may earn."

On the opposite side is "The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what we want most for what we want at the moment." author unknown.

Damon